Set 5 - Quarter 4

A Pride Month Review

‘Sup Sapphics

New Set Alerttttttt 🚨🚨🚨 We are officially heading into Set 6 of 10! We’re over halfway through the first heat and we are super excited to have you all here! As we wrap up this Pride month, we celebrate our community and most importantly YOU who have helped make SapphicSavvy possible.

We’re also celebrating our winners of Set 5! LADYYAGA took home the $500 prize this month, and we hope this was a fun way to close out Pride month! JAC got the respectable $150 prize, and our third place winner ARATANI got $75! Congrats you three!

And now, without further ado, our results.

What’s a Shared Ex Amongst Friends?

We asked a question a couple of weeks ago about who has hooked up with an ex of an ex. This week we asked who has hooked up with/dated an ex of a friend. Oooooh. Very fun, very scandalous.

Or maybe not so scandalous! The overall average was just over 25% who have hooked up with/dated a friend’s ex! The norms for this within the sapphic community at large are, I think, less strict about this than heteronormative culture. This could stem from smaller communities and therefore smaller dating pools, as well as more amicable breakups/a tendency to stay friends with exes. There’s less of a taboo around exes and therefore maybe less stigma about dating a friend's ex! The numbers were lower for younger age groups though. This does map on lower rates of staying friends with an ex for younger age groups, and maybe provides additional support for shifting norms around exes?

Queer users had the highest average for this question! Overall though numbers were considerably lower than our average guesses. So while this may be a more acceptable norm within the sapphic community, it doesn’t seem to be as common as we expect! So long as y’all are having fun and things are consensual, you do you!

You’re Confused, I’m F*cking Confused Bro

The classic situationship. Will they, won’t they? Are we, aren’t we? Am I crazy, are you crazy? What are we doing? What a situation, am I right?

Users in their 30s are being spared from the dreaded situationship this past year. Lucky divas. Are y’all just coupled up or do you have exceptional boundaries? You should clue in everyone else, so many of our friends would be spared our incoherent, crazed ramblings that make them question our sanity if you did. This does seem to be pretty ubiquitous amongst the 20s and under age group. Get well soon, y’all.

Queer users also had the highest average for being in a confusing situationship in the past year. It happens to the sexiest of us. Communication upfront is important. Try asking these questions: Would you want to meet at least 1 friend of my choosing? What if we hung out during a weekend lunch time instead? If I called you my partner, how freaked out would you be on a scale of 1-10? Would you be open to watching Couple’s Therapy together just for fun? What if we defined our relationship? Where are you going? Why are you leaving? Was the Couple’s Therapy question too much?

Preemptive Preventative Health Participation

Going to the drs is such a pain, I’m ngl. Finding the time several weeks out to go, preparing a list of things to talk about, worrying about insurance, it’s just not that fun. But alas, preventative health is probably one of the best things you can do for yourself. Catching something before it becomes a problem is hard to do, but the outcomes are better than waiting until things get bad. I’m guilty of this, but we’re working on it.

We’re happy to see the numbers are generally high across the board, but there’s still over a quarter of people who are maybe not so up to date on preventative screenings (me too, we’re in this together). These numbers were a little lower for younger users, which makes sense. Healthcare is expensive and confusing at best. But we can start to figure this out together. Quest blood test date anyone?

Numbers across groups were pretty comparable, though bisexual users had a slightly higher average! This is a great thing, and we’d like to schedule a follow-up just to make sure everything looks normal. Does next February 29th work for you? Yeah, I’m afraid that’s our first available date. I’ll pencil you in for that and send a reminder email. Yes, that’s Tuesday, February 29th, 2028 at 11:30am. Copay will be $20.

That’s all I have for you today divas. I hope you’ve all had a good Pride month!

XOXO SapphicSavvy

Dating a Friend’s Ex:

Confusing Situationships:

Preventative Health Screenings:

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