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Strength Training the Heart

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‘Sup Sapphics 😎

I hope everyone’s Pride month has been off to a good start! We’re so excited to be sharing this month with all of you, and we’re very happy you’re here! Last week marked the start of Set 5 and we have some fun classic questions to get into today, so without further ado, let’s begin.



Harrowing Heartbreaks


This past week, we took it all the way back to the beginning. Imagine, if you will, your first sapphic love. Emotions were running wild, everything is new and it’s exciting. The relationship begins running its course and, most lamentably, things eventually ended (for most of us probably) and it felt pretty devastating. What a rollercoaster. But how long did it take for most of us to pick up the pieces?

If you said about a year, you would be mostly correct! We did have some variances across age, but more or less people said about a year. I think every break up is unique to the individuals involved, but it was interesting to see a general trend in age groups that I am personally very curious about. Users in their 40s moved on in an average of 10 months, and the average guess was pretty spot on for the group. Was it truly just a different time, or do we forget and compress the timeline as we get older? My gut says the latter, but please chime in if you have another perspective on this! 

The only thing that throws a wrench into my little time-smooths-over-all hypothesis is that users in their 30s had the highest average across all age groups, coming in at right under 15 months. If it was a perspective thing, I would’ve guessed users in their 20s would have the highest average, which it seems many of us also thought given the highest guess was among people in their 20s. So what accounts for this difference? I fear there’s not really a good explanation without making gigantic sweeping assumptions, but I’ll share my best guess because why not. I still think that our memories compress as we get older, but I think people in their 30s were right at the edge of the technology era (wait, stay with me) before our attention spans became a commodity to be hacked, before dating apps made it easier to find other sapphics, and before being queer had more of the acceptance we have today. I believe there’s a possibility that those three aspects have made dating/heartbreak slightly different for younger users. It’s easier to connect with other sapphics in the community now, and, although there is still a long way to go when it comes to acceptance of queer identities, it’s definitely better now than it was in the early 2000s/2010s. But I really do think one of the biggest aspects of this is that young adults have been pushed to speed up through many parts of life. Maybe this is my soapbox, but everything is expected to be so fast these days that I wouldn’t be surprised if this spills over into our personal lives as well. But I digress.

Entirely by chance, we had the average guess exactly equal the average answer for bisexual users, so that was pretty cool! Very spot on. It was also the lowest average answer, sitting right at the 9 month mark. I think there might be an explanation here that accounts for some queer users as well, which is that, for many of us, our first sapphic break up may not have been our first ever break up, which would maybe make healing time a bit shorter if it’s not your first emotional whirlwind. And possibly some of us have not yet had a sapphic breakup. Whatever the reason, it still took time touching grass for those of us who have already endured our first sapphic breakups bc wtf was that, right?



Fictional Fancies


To Shego (from Kim Possible), the weight that you carry on your back from sapphics who adored you from a young age must be akin to Atlas holding up the world, and for that we thank you for your service 🫡

A true classic. What small sapphic has not had a crush on a fictional female character? Apparently a little over 10%, but this one seems pretty unanimous across the board. Those creators absolutely made a lot of characters seriously queer-coded. Please tell us who yours were, I think it’s so fun to hear the range from my beloved Shego to the tie-dye girl from Parent Trap and everything in between. 



Weekly Workouts


Oh exercise, truly a love-hate relationship. I feel great afterwards, but dragging myself to them is a mental workout. So I guess that makes it doubly beneficial? I hate it when They’re right. 

We had a respectable overall average of 2 days of 30+ minute exercise per week. I feel like I’m living long enough to see myself become the villain, but frequent exercise is one of the best and most self-controllable things you can do for your physical and mental well-being (though please make sure to take things at your pace and in a sustainable way). Going for brisk walks if your health allows can fulfill this as well, don’t underestimate the benefits of a hot-sapphic walk. There are many factors that can go into health and physical ability, so take what works for you. Exercise can contribute to longevity (and sexual health 👀) though, and we need to outlast those mfs, am I right?

Working out can feel really daunting, and if this is an obstacle you’re facing, you are not alone in this. There are sapphic-friendly gyms and places that are designed to be more inclusive for women, but they can take some time to search for in your city. We’d recommend checking out https://www.sportsbrastrength.com/index.html which is an online strength training program for women’s sports fans (and created by a former WNBA coach and SapphicSavvy user!!) and is beginner- and home-gym-friendly!

This was also the “Ideal” question this week, and we saw across the board that you all said the ideal answer to this question was working out for at least 30 minutes about 3.5 days per week! This was the case across all age and identity groups, so our consensus was working out every other day is kinda hot 🤭

That’s all I have for you today! I hope y’all are having a great week, and I’ll see you in the app!

XOXO SapphicSavvy

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