Set 2 - Quarter 4

So Dream-You Cheated, Again

Hello from SapphicSavvy!

We are coming to you live with some more data insights from the last quarter of Set 2! A quick update on the status of the competition for anyone who might be new here:

We organize our weekly competitions (or Quarters) into groups of 4 to roughly follow each month. We call these groups of 4 a Set.
Set 2 has now ended and we have some larger prizes to give out to our top users!
All you early birds are currently competing in Heat 1, which consists of 10 sets! So 8 more to go!

We're also approaching over 800 users on our app! We are ecstatic to have you here and if you know of anyone who is part of the sapphic community, we’d love to have them join! At the risk of sounding too much like a pyramid scheme, we actually have referral codes that you can send and get some additional points if they sign up 👀 Go to settings using the gear icon at the bottom of the screen, then click on “Refer your Friends” and a you should be able to copy a code to send!

Dream Dalliances

Now onto our data deep dive fr. Last week we asked how many people have ever woken up upset with a partner after having a dream that they cheated, and I personally was surprised at how low the number was! Not sure what that says about me lol. If we want to get into some real Freudian bs, I’m sure they would say this is absolutely a reflection of our deepest subconscious thoughts and reflects how we feel about ourselves and our parents. But then again, maybe it’s just a dream. I’ve never been one for dream analysis, I think they’re too fickle to try to attach any meaning to them, but then again I have had dreams about my teeth falling out around the times I go to the dentist so maybe they’re onto something.

The patterns for this question were pretty interesting though, and I have some ideas as to why this could be, but my interpretation, much like those of dream analysis, is more of an art than a science. Younger users were less likely to have woken up upset with a partner after they cheated in a dream, and I think this may be because this is a sneaky double-barrelled question. We typically avoid asking questions that are a two-in-one because results are hard to interpret, and while this one on the surface doesn’t appear to be so, it kind of is. I have woken up in horror several times to such cheating dreams, but usually with immediate relief when I realize it was just a dream. It’s possible that many other people interpreted it this way as well and answered no to this question. Alternatively, it may be that younger users haven’t spent as many hours dreaming as older users, and their time for the nightmare may be on the horizon.

Lesbians were also marginally more likely to report waking up upset because their partner cheated in a dream. Not super sure why this is and the difference wasn’t huge, I might chalk this one up to not enough data. Across the board though for all groups, the estimations were a lot higher than the reality. We did some deeper digging and saw that anyone who has mentioned that they were in a relationship/married did have a significantly higher average of reporting the cheating dream (around 50%) so there could be something to this. Maybe being in a long-term relationship makes these kinds of dreams more memorable and more hurtful bc how dare they! For those of us who have had the dream, you’re not alone. For anyone who has been on the receiving end of the cold shoulder because dream-you cheated, I prescribe making dinner and 1 kiss on the cheek.

Poppers

The appeal of poppers is so fascinating to me, and I’m going to be honest I don’t really get it. I’ve never tried them, but living in West Hollywood, I’ve heard all about them. It seems like poppers are definitely not as big of a thing within the sapphic community though, with roughly 15% of users saying they’ve tried them before. For context, a study done a little while ago put the average at around 35% for gay men who have used poppers.

What’s interesting is that the perceptions for how many sapphics use poppers was more in-line with the usage rates for gay men, but double the actual rate for sapphics. There weren’t huge age differences, though younger users had a very slightly higher average. I know they’ve grown in popularity in recent years, but definitely not as commonly used as we seem to think!

Slightly more queer users reported trying poppers than lesbians and bisexual users, but again I think this might be due to smaller sample sizes and these effects might not be significant in reality. Ultimately, it seems fairly uncommon to use. If you use poppers, please do so safely!

Scissoring Soliloquy

I don’t know about you, but I have heard a wide range of speculation about the popularity of scissoring within the sapphic community. It became a huge stereotype through porn, and I think it turned many sapphics off to the idea due to the fetishization of sapphics by men in those kinds of videos. I have heard many people who concur with this idea, and it’s gross to see our sexuality be reduced to the pleasure of men. I’ve also heard though that it’s becoming more common as people reclaim it and reject the notion that sapphics don’t scissor just because it’s commodified by porn. The reality of scissoring is that it can be kind of difficult. It requires a lot of flexibility and mobility, and for whatever reason the logistics just don’t always work out. This question likely has a lot of tangled reasons that lead to why some sapphics do or don’t engage in scissoring regularly, and so I won’t try to speculate as hard as to why we saw the differences we did.

The overall perception does seem to be higher than the reality, but I don’t think this is either a good or a bad thing! How we choose to have sex is deeply personal and people should do what feels and works best for them. It’s not weird or wrong if you and your partner engage in scissoring, and same goes for those who don’t. If you’re interested in trying it, I recommend stretching regularly and being willing to laugh and have fun.

That’s all I have for today! Congrats to our winners of Set 2 and good luck on the new quarter!

XOXO SapphicSavvy

Cheating Partners (In a Dream)

Poppers

Scissoring

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